The TLA Releasing DVD of the 2020 gay-themed romdram "Are We Lost Forever" has two characteristics that distinguish arthouse films about boys who like other boys from Logo dreck. "Forever" has a strong live-stage vibe and keeps nudity to an (overall) tasteful minimum.
The underlying theme of "Forever" is that the accelerated pace of gay relationships often contributes to them progressing from love at first sight, to domestic harmony, to indifference, to animosity, to a break-up that ultimately leads to trauma and drama within roughly the period that a solid hetero relationship reaches the stage of annoying unmarried friends with constant photos of "the baby." A relationship in "Forever" that goes from locking eyes to locking lips within five minutes perfectly illustrates this.
Our story begins with central engaged couple Adrian and Hampus lounging in their bed that drips with symbolism. This begins with the role that a "have" being in a relationship with a "have not" plays when it comes to dividing up what once was considered mutual property.
Past and present issues result in Adrian being sure that Hampus, who already took one break from the relationship, is planning another run for the border. This is soon confirmed. This encounter introduces an element of the best viciously bickering couple film ever "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf." Adrian subsequently sniping that Hampus never expresses an opinion and Hampus replying that doing so when your opinion always is criticized does not make sense amps up the "Woolf" vibe.
The rest of "Forever" chronicles the aftermath of the end of the relationship. This involves our leads coupling a couple of times for a couple of reasons, separately looking for love in all the wrong (and some of the right) places, and hoping to put right what once went wrong.
One of the most honest scenes has Adrian hooking up for what he knows is a wham. bam, thank your sir but his "dump" thinking that giving it up earns him at least a little pillow talk. We get additional keen insight regarding the extent to which Adrian is willing to take one for the team. This wonderfully channels the cheesy Liberace biopic "Behind the Candelabara" in which the boy of the titular closet case comments as to the circumstances under which the relevant act is repugnant,
We also see the "Forever" boys try to move on, which predictably works better for one of them than for the other. An equally universal aspect of this is the mixture of learning from the past and repeating some of the same mistakes that put them back on the market. A blatant example of this is Adrian prompting his latest at least Mr. Right Now to change his shirt.
Writer/director David Fardmar continues to keep things true to the end in that our main boys are a little older and wiser at a time that they enjoy relative serenity regarding their pasts and their presents.